Do You Really Care?

“A key point to bear in mind…You’re better off not giving the small things more time than they deserve.

-Marcus Aurelius

It seems like it’s really important to you. That the door not be slammed. That the chores be done a certain way. That everything be put away immediately. That feet go on the ground, not the furniture.

But the truth is, you don’t actually care about the things themselves. You don’t. If you had to choose between your kids having fond memories and you having clean walls, you’d choose your kids having fun. If you had to choose between slightly lower grades and better self-worth, you’d choose their self-worth. If you had to choose between just about anything and your kids’ safety, happiness, and self-image, you’d never choose that other stuff.

Yet here you are, arguing about it again. Choosing to die on some stupid hill. Choosing to protect a piece of Sheetrock that—admit it—you don’t actually care about. What you really care about—what these rules actually represent—is obedience and control. What you’re really worried about, hence the fixation, is the deep-seated anxiety that you might be screwing them up. Relax! Let this stuff go. Seriously, just let it go. You won’t regret it.

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