We all feel self-conscious about it. Our kids don’t behave perfectly. They make messes. They make an incredible amount of noise. This is why we often keep them at home and find ourselves apologizing, warning people about the hurricane that may or may not arrive. Some of us fear being overshadowed by our kids or being judged for having them with us—worried it will damage our professional image.

Abraham Lincoln’s law partner William Herndon frequently complained about Lincoln’s “brats,” whom Lincoln insisted on bringing to work. They pulled books off shelves and rifled through papers. Herndon even suspected they were urinating on the rug.

But you know what? Lincoln brought them anyway. He wanted his kids to see him work, as we’ve said a parent must do. He wanted to spend time with them, and this was his way. He refused to be embarrassed. While he tried his best to contain them, he accepted that this is simply what children do—and always have done.

And it’s fortunate that Lincoln took this time. He would later bury two of his boys. He himself would be killed at age 56.

None of us knows how long we have. We shouldn’t let fear of others’ judgment or the possibility of a tantrum deprive us of precious moments together. Don’t be embarrassed.

Don’t apologize. Do your best to clean up and teach them good behavior, but bring those wonderful “brats” with you. You won’t regret it in the long run—even if occasionally you do.