We think about it the wrong way, you know. Our kids do not grow up someday.

They don’t become an adult. They will not eventually become a toddler or a teenager or a grown-up.

Our kids are growing up.

Like Seneca’s powerful observation about death—that we don’t die someday but are in fact dying right now—so it goes for our children. They are becoming adults right now, becoming toddlers and teenagers, getting older every second. Your 5-year-old is a preteen right now—you get that, right?

Their childhood is receding right now. Right now, while you’re on your phone. Right now, while you’re saying things like, “I can’t wait until they’re old enough to…” Right now, while you’re making plans with people you don’t really want to see or committing to things you don’t really want to do. Right now, they are growing up…moving on…and eventually, inevitably, will be gone. And by the way, it’s worth pointing out that the same thing is happening to you and your spouse, too.

So show up! Be there for it! Don’t miss it! Don’t wish it away!

P.S. We’re all striving to get better at our most important job: being a parent. And part of that is not letting these precious years slip away without making the most of them.

The Daily Dad book was written to help us all become more present parents. More thoughtful parents. More confident parents. It’s one piece of advice at a time, one day at a time. You’ll find lessons from philosophy, history, literature, science, and from others who have walked this path—past and present. Each entry provides a memorable lesson on being the role model your child needs, and the parent you aspire to be.

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