It’s comforting to remember, sometimes, that compared to most parents you’re doing a great job. Compared to most people, you shouldn’t forget, you’re doing a great job.

Remember: There are parents who haven’t bothered to figure out how to properly install a car seat. There are parents who leave guns laying around the house. There are parents who buy alcohol for their teenagers. There are parents too busy or consumed with their own lives to have an active presence in the lives of their own kids. There are people who don’t take care of themselves and quite reasonably struggle to take care of their kids, too.

Some of this is excusable and you can empathize. Some of it is not. Either way, you can give yourself a little credit for at least having those areas covered.

But you know what you can’t do? You can’t relax. Because your kids go to school with those kids, you drive on the road with those people, you touch the door handles that those people touch. They’re who your kid might get measles from or be influenced by. It doesn’t matter how careful you are…it can all be undone by someone else’s carelessness. And this is the second reason we can’t relax: We are all in this together. We can’t just care about our kids, we have to care about our kids—that is to say, society in general. As we’ve talked about, we’re obligated to help the kids our kids go to school with, that live down the street, that live in some country we’ll never visit.

It’s not enough to just handle what you can handle. We have to help each other handle what needs to be handled. Remember: parenting isn’t just an individual activity—it’s a collective responsibility. We’re only as good as we are together.

That’s why we’ve created the Daily Dad Society—a community to give you the tools, structure, and support to live that practice every single day.

Head to dailydad.com/society to find out how to join the call and become a member of the supportive community at Daily Dad Society.