{"id":104,"date":"2019-09-03T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-09-03T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=104"},"modified":"2022-06-29T01:50:21","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T01:50:21","slug":"what-your-parents-did-is-not-an-excuse","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/what-your-parents-did-is-not-an-excuse\/","title":{"rendered":"What Your Parents Did Is Not An Excuse"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s just about the easiest rationalization in the world: <\/span>My parents did it to me and I turned out fine. My dad used to <\/span><\/i>[smack me][yell at me][never come to my baseball games][never told me \u2018good job\u2019][never said he loved me] <\/span>and I survived.<\/span><\/i> It\u2019s what I learned. That\u2019s just how I was raised.\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Ok, c\u2019mon.<\/span><\/p>\n

Until 1968, cars didn\u2019t need to have seat belts in them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Until 1992, the prevailing advice was that infants should sleep on their stomachs, not their backs.<\/span><\/p>\n

Moms used to be forced to give their newborns water at birth for \u2018hydration\u2019…an idea we now consider to be insane.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

People used to send their young children to distant and brutal boarding schools for their own good. (<\/span>The pioneer of attachment theory,<\/span><\/a> Dr. John Bowlby, was sent to one himself, and later wrote, \u201cI wouldn’t send a <\/span>dog <\/span><\/i>away to boarding school at age seven.\u201d)<\/span><\/p>\n

Many people still claim that misbehaving children need a good spanking, even when research shows that not only does spanking not curb bad behavior, but it also <\/span>can cause mental health problems in kids<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Indeed, it is amazing that any of us survived and that we\u2019re not all broken or sociopaths. These horrible (or, at best, ignorant) practices didn\u2019t \u201cbuild character\u201d\u2014they hurt and damaged generations of our innocent children. Whether we know it or not, we carry this baggage with us today.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

A father should not content himself with merely being the same as his own father was. No, every generation owes it to themselves, and to their children, to improve, to learn from the past and to not continue the cycle of error or suffering. <\/span>We have to do better<\/span><\/a>. We cannot make excuses (and we can\u2019t let our parents\u2014our children\u2019s grandparents\u2014continue with their own ignorance either).\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Our job isn\u2019t to do things the way <\/span>things have always been done.<\/span><\/i> That\u2019s an attitude that\u2019s bad for business, for government, and for raising kids. Our job is to do things the best way we can with the best information we have. And that almost certainly means doing it differently than it was when you were a kid. <\/span><\/p>\n

P.S.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>This was originally sent<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/a> on Sep 10 2019. Sign up today for <\/i><\/b>the Daily Dad’s email <\/a><\/i><\/b><\/span>and get our popular 11 page eBook, \u201c20 Things Great Dads Do Everyday\u201d<\/i><\/b>.\u00a0<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s just about the easiest rationalization in the world: My parents did it to me and I turned out fine. My dad used to [smack me][yell at me][never come to my baseball games][never told me \u2018good job\u2019][never said he loved me] and I survived. It\u2019s what I learned. That\u2019s just how I was raised.\u00a0 Ok,…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nWhat Your Parents Did Is Not An Excuse - The Daily Dad<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/what-your-parents-did-is-not-an-excuse\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"What Your Parents Did Is Not An Excuse - The Daily Dad\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"It\u2019s just about the easiest rationalization in the world: My parents did it to me and I turned out fine. 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