{"id":1796,"date":"2021-11-25T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-11-25T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=1796"},"modified":"2022-06-29T01:51:52","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T01:51:52","slug":"youre-the-voice-in-their-heads","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/youre-the-voice-in-their-heads\/","title":{"rendered":"You\u2019re The Voice In Their Heads"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019re just trying to get them to behave. You\u2019re just trying to get them to listen to you, to stop hitting their sister, to take school seriously, to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">whatever.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So you speak firmly, even harshly. You\u2019re tired, you\u2019ve had this conversation a thousand times, you\u2019re not as kind as you could be. You\u2019re just joking maybe, just giving your honest opinion about this or that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you know what you\u2019re doing, really?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019re putting a voice in their head. That\u2019s how this happens.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everything we say, every interaction we have with our kids is shaping them. How we speak to them informs how they will speak to themselves. If you want proof of this, think about all the complexes and scripts you picked up from your parents\u2014maybe things you\u2019re working on in therapy right now, decades later.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So while you can, before it\u2019s too late&#8230;catch yourself. Make this interaction a kind one, a patient one, a friendly one. Speak to them the way you\u2019d want them to speak to themselves. Because it\u2019s not a matter of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">if<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> they will internalize the things they heard growing up, it\u2019s a matter of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">what<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> they will internalize.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Put a <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">good<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> voice in their head.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You\u2019re just trying to get them to behave. You\u2019re just trying to get them to listen to you, to stop hitting their sister, to take school seriously, to whatever. So you speak firmly, even harshly. You\u2019re tired, you\u2019ve had this conversation a thousand times, you\u2019re not as kind as you could be. 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