{"id":253,"date":"2019-06-18T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-06-18T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=253"},"modified":"2022-06-29T01:50:27","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T01:50:27","slug":"dont-be-that-guy-or-that-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/dont-be-that-guy-or-that-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"Don\u2019t Be That Guy\u2014or That Guy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A helicopter parent hovers. They refuse to let their kid out of their site. They follow them on the playground so they never fall down. They don\u2019t let them ride their bike to a friend\u2019s house so they never get lost. They make all their kids decisions for them. They check in constantly with their teachers to make sure everything is going according to plan. <em>Their <\/em>plan.<\/p>\n<p>A snowplow parent doesn\u2019t hover, they drive out in front of their kid, clearing the road of every conceivable impediment and obstacle between adolescence and&#8230;retirement? Their kid\u2019s, not theirs.<\/p>\n<p>Coach doesn\u2019t think their kid is good enough to be the star player? They\u2019ll start their own team. College applications? They\u2019ve got it handled\u2014even if it means bending the rules or breaking the law. At great pain and expense, their kid will never have to struggle, stumble or be rejected.<\/p>\n<p>Needless to say, neither of these approaches is likely to produce what every good dad wants: Self-sufficient, happy, and well-adjusted children. Even though many helicopter and snowplow dads come from a good place\u2014they love their kids so much, they want nothing but the best for them\u2014they are actively doing harm.<\/p>\n<p>Your job is to be <em>there<\/em> for your kid, not be their <em>everything.<\/em> Your job is to teach your kid, not prevent them from ever failing. Yes, you have to keep them safe, but not at the cost of keeping them sheltered. Not at the expense of life itself.<\/p>\n<p>So relax, man, and give them room. Be a good example. Be ready for when they need you. <em>That <\/em>is what a Dad does.<\/p>\n<p><b><i>P.S.\u00a0<\/i><\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/\"><span class=\"s2\"><b><i>This was originally sent<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/a><b><i> on June 18, 2019. Sign up today for <\/i><\/b><span class=\"s2\"><b><i>the <a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/\">Daily Dad&#8217;s email <\/a><\/i><\/b><\/span><b><i>and get our popular 11 page eBook, \u201c20 Things Great Dads Do Everyday<\/i><\/b><span class=\"s2\"><b><i>.\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A helicopter parent hovers. They refuse to let their kid out of their site. They follow them on the playground so they never fall down. They don\u2019t let them ride their bike to a friend\u2019s house so they never get lost. They make all their kids decisions for them. 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