{"id":5014,"date":"2022-08-01T00:02:04","date_gmt":"2022-08-01T00:02:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=5014"},"modified":"2022-08-01T00:02:07","modified_gmt":"2022-08-01T00:02:07","slug":"make-them-find-out-for-themselves","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/make-them-find-out-for-themselves\/","title":{"rendered":"Make Them Find Out For Themselves"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>It would be easy to give them all the answers. It\u2019s even fun to give them the answers. It would make things go faster, smoother and let you get back to what you were doing. But you can\u2019t. You just can\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/teach-them-that-its-figureoutable\/\">We\u2019ve said before<\/a> that the goal is to try to raise kids who know how to figure things out. What does that mean? It means you have to <em>let<\/em> them figure things out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>John Stuart Mill would recall that in his own unique childhood education, which was supervised by his father, \u201canything which could be found out by thinking I was never told, until I had exhausted my efforts to find it out for myself.\u201d It\u2019s not that his father never helped him\u2014like some homeschooling Bean Dad (<a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/dont-be-like-this\/\">which we have criticized before<\/a>)\u2014it\u2019s that he encouraged his son to take a crack at it first. More than encouraged, he let him struggle with it, let him <em>not know<\/em> until he either learned or learned how to learn. The boy had to try and fail before he came to the rescue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/store.dailydad.com\/products\/luctor-et-emergo-medallion?variant=40355551051956\">Luctor et emergo<\/a>, remember? Struggle and they emerge? We have to make them understand that they have what it takes to do this on their own and if they don\u2019t, the best way to get it is to develop it by experience, by curiosity and exploration. We hold some of our answers back not because we don\u2019t love them but because we love them so much. We let them struggle <em>because<\/em> we believe in them and because we believe even more in what will come out the other side.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It would be easy to give them all the answers. It\u2019s even fun to give them the answers. It would make things go faster, smoother and let you get back to what you were doing. But you can\u2019t. You just can\u2019t. 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