{"id":5395,"date":"2023-03-28T21:34:57","date_gmt":"2023-03-28T21:34:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=5395"},"modified":"2023-03-28T21:34:57","modified_gmt":"2023-03-28T21:34:57","slug":"it-should-change-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/it-should-change-you\/","title":{"rendered":"It Should Change You"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Everyone says that becoming a parent <em><a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/how-the-first-year-of-fatherhood-changed-me\/\">changes you<\/a>.<\/em> The responsibility. <a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/this-is-what-is-making-you-so-stressed\/\">The stress<\/a>. The unconditional love. The cuteness. This is big stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But as the comedian Tom Segura observes in one of his great Netflix specials, it\u2019s wrong to say that it changes people\u2013that\u2019s just not the right language. It\u2019s that having kids <em>should<\/em> change you. If it doesn\u2019t he says, if you\u2019re still the same person? If you have the same routines, <a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/do-you-know-what-you-look-like-angry-2\/\">the same behaviors<\/a>, the same priorities afterwards? That\u2019s a big problem! You\u2019re doing something wrong!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s hardly unheard of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Having a kid is a biological thing\u2013an objective life event. It\u2019s not different from growing old or getting married. Plenty of people do those things without really changing. But as we\u2019ve said many times before here, <em>becoming<\/em> <em>a parent<\/em> is something different. Becoming a parent\u2013not just being one\u2013is a choice, it produces a change. Not everyone that has a kid makes that choice, just like plenty of people reach 40 without maturing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/how-to-shape-yourself-and-your-kids\/\">You have to <em>choose<\/em> to be changed<\/a>, to let all this stuff in, to change yourself around it. It\u2019s not a given. It doesn\u2019t happen the day you come home from the hospital with your newborn either. It\u2019s a process, it\u2019s a transition, it\u2019s something you actively do as well as passively accept. It\u2019s a role you embrace, a person you allow yourself to become.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Everyone says that becoming a parent changes you. The responsibility. The stress. The unconditional love. The cuteness. This is big stuff. But as the comedian Tom Segura observes in one of his great Netflix specials, it\u2019s wrong to say that it changes people\u2013that\u2019s just not the right language. 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