{"id":805,"date":"2020-06-29T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2020-06-29T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/?p=805"},"modified":"2022-06-29T01:50:56","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T01:50:56","slug":"you-have-to-take-care-of-yourself-too","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dailydad.com\/you-have-to-take-care-of-yourself-too\/","title":{"rendered":"You Have to Take Care of Yourself, Too"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve talked before of the crossfire hurricane<\/span><\/a> that is becoming a father. When you first become a dad, your whole life gets turned upside down. As you scramble to manage and handle all the things now on your plate, you sometimes say to yourself: When they\u2019re a little older, this will calm down. As soon as we get through [insert phase], everything will go back to normal.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s this delusion\u2014this lie, really\u2014that we use to explain all the things we\u2019re putting off. I\u2019ll start going to the gym once they\u2019re out of this sleep regression. I\u2019ll start eating better once they\u2019re less picky about food. I\u2019ll read when we go on vacation and they\u2019re playing with their friends. My wife and I will get our relationship back on track once they\u2019re in school more or out of the house for good or whatever.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It was Seneca<\/span><\/a> who said of fools that the one thing they\u2019re always doing is \u201cgetting ready to live.\u201d One thing far too many fathers have in common\u2014mothers too\u2014is that they are always putting off taking care of themselves. This may come from a good place, but the results are good for no one.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to take care of yourself.<\/span><\/i> You think your terrible eating habits aren\u2019t contributing to your temper? Of course you\u2019re grouchy\u2014you feel like a disgusting piece of crap! You think you\u2019re doing your kids a favor by shortening your lifespan? You think you\u2019re modeling what a good man looks like when you\u2019re struggling to get up the stairs or pick up a box of groceries? You think you\u2019re making them feel safe and loved by letting your relationship bleed out on the dining room table?<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to take care of yourself. <\/span><\/i>For them. For you. Because you\u2019ll be a better dad if you\u2019re healthy, happy, and wise. Don\u2019t put this off. It\u2019s not selfish. It\u2019s essential. <\/span><\/p>\n

P.S.\u00a0<\/i><\/b>This was originally sent<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/a> on June 29, 2020. Sign up today for <\/i><\/b>the Daily Dad’s email <\/a><\/i><\/b><\/span>and get our popular 11 page eBook, \u201c20 Things Great Dads Do Everyday<\/i><\/b>.\u201d<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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