You’re younger than most of the parents at soccer practice. You still play sports yourself! You go to concerts and stay up late. You play video games with your friends. You don’t feel that much older, you don’t seem like your parents or those parents. You’ve changed, sure, but not like that.

This is fine. It’s good to feel young, to still feel like your best years are ahead of you, but you know, none of us are Peter Pan.

“When you raise a child,” filmmaker Cameron Crowe recently said in an interview, “you can no longer call yourself a kid.”

Of course that’s why the themes in his work have changed. They’ve gotten less about coming-of-age dynamics and more about the “growth step” in his current stage of life. And how he approaches his work has also changed. His priorities have changed. His experiences as a dad have changed him.

We have to grow up. If we’re not going to do it now as parents, when are we? And if you’re not the grownup in your house, who is? Your kids’ job is to be kids…and they don’t need competition.