It’s a dangerous world out there. Kids fall. Kids get hurt. Kids get sick.

Things might be safer than they were in the past, but that doesn’t exactly help you relax, does it? Not when the news headlines show that your kid could drown or get hit by a car or be kidnapped.

But it’s important to remember that while bad things happen to good people all the time, that while freak accidents do occur, statistics (and definitely the news) can be misleading. Rip tides don’t reach up onto the beach and grab little children and the news stories don’t usually point out that the parents ignored multiple signs warning of the danger in the water. How many pools don’t have fences? Why wasn’t the gun locked up? Why wasn’t the family wearing bike helmets? Why didn’t they vaccinate? It’s pointless and cruel to victim blame but that doesn’t mean people are blameless when things happen.

There are basic precautions that we can take and if you’re taking them, that changes the risk calculation. That lessens the danger. Smart people have thought about these problems, given advice and you followed it. They invented safety measures and took them. They developed best practices and you observed them. You have handled the part of this that’s in your control. You’re no longer in the same bracket as the ‘average’ person—and you’re very far from the bracket of irresponsible people.

So relax a little. We’re all still hostages to fortune…but you did everything it’s possible to do.