Douglas MacArthur was a man of routine, most military men are. So it shouldn’t surprise us that he built a family life around routine. But unlike far too many fathers who make routine a form of control, MacArthur’s morning routine was about fun—it was about starting the day off right. As the peerless William Manchester…

In just a few words, Whitman was able to get the essence of it. Not of America, not of the body and soul, or the natural world, as he so expertly and often did in his poems. No, it was his father he was speaking of, but really a generation of fathers, in fact, a…

There are way too many poor families. America does a horrendous job taking care of its families. The world is full of parents who have to worry about how they’re going to feed their kids, whether they can afford to send them to school or the doctor, who experience grinding, painful poverty. But today, we’re…

It drives us nuts. We told them to stop. It’s something they just have to grow out of, have to stop. The annoying baby voice they do. The screaming for no reason. The curse word they picked up at school. The insult they’re hurling at a sibling. The extremely loud heavy metal band they’ve taken…

You’re going to mess up as a parent, we know this. You’re going to say things you regret. Situations are not going to go like you wanted. Their feelings are going to get hurt. Connection capital will be depleted, even overdrawn. This is a given. What is up to you though, is how and whether…

You can sit your kids down to watch what you think is the greatest movie of all time, and they’ll get bored and fall asleep. You can get floor seats to an NBA game and they’ll roll their eyes. You can introduce them to your fanciest, most important friends and they’ll want to go back…

It’s good for them to be able to do math. It’d be helpful if they spoke another language. They should know their way around finances. They should know how to fix things. There is so much that we want to teach our kids, so much that we want them to learn. But so many of…

Maybe you and your spouse are brilliant. Maybe you’re extremely successful. Maybe you’re two of the nicest people who have ever lived. This is great. It provides so many advantages and privileges to your children. But you know what? It’s still tough to be your kid. Not just tough to be a kid—which it always…

​We’re all raising hellions​, as we said recently. There’s that part of us that dreads the trip to the grocery store, that preemptively apologizes when we go over to someone’s house, because ​we know our kids going to be crazy​. Because look, we’ve all been in public, we’ve all been on airplanes with complete disasters…

You know when your flight is clearly delayed—like the plane’s not even there—but the airline isn’t updating anything? Or when you were supposed to be coming in for a landing but you can feel the plane is circling the airport and the pilot hasn’t said a word? You’re told the plane is waiting on an…